frot bro

Re: the euphoric rubbing together of our bodies

5-15-2002

PS

I came out 2 yrs. ago, and believe me if I would have come across your site before I would have come out sooner.

I've had girl-friends in the past, but have always known that I preferred being with guys. I was totally freaked out by a lot of gay bros. who always try and fit you into a label; how shallow!

I REALLY enjoy frottage much more than fucking. I've always been looked at stangely when I brought this up to my gay friends. Why? I'm just being myself, and feel much better being "true to myself", as the saying goes. I don't get the whole top/bottom thing; it's really not me and I don't feel the need to be either, to be in a loving, monogamous, and completely masculine relationship.

Thanks again!

Bill Weintraub

Re: the euphoric rubbing together of our bodies

5-15-2002

hey thank you frot bro

"if i had come across your site before i would have come out sooner"

in this club we hear from a lot of "str8-curious" and bi guys who want to get into having sex with men, but are totally turned off by the pressure to do anal -- the post from Blk Warrior on this board, "MAKE LOVE -- not fuck," is a good example of the way many men feel

and that resistance to doing anal is completely rational -- anal penetration after all is dangerous, dirty, and demeaning:

dangerous, because it exposes you to a large variety of unpleasant and even fatal diseases; dirty, because it involves contact with feces; and demeaning -- because it forces one partner to become a pseudo-woman, or, as we often hear, a bitch

no reasonable person is going to want to be involved in that sort of activity, and it's only in the topsy-turvy world of gay men that anal "sex," which has so many drawbacks, would be so exalted; while frot, which is, compared to anal, remarkably safe, and provides full-body and true genital pleasure for both partners in the way frot bro has just described, would be denigrated

but so it is

so it's the purpose of this site to change that, and to help men who have sex with men start making more realistic assessments of pleasure and risk

and part of that is persuading major gay institutions like the safer-sex establishment and big gay websites like GayHealth.com to stop pushing anal the way a dealer pushes heroin

but part of it too is to get ordinary gay men to start thinking about what they're actually doing

so that's why i keep saying dirty dangerous and demeaning -- and add, for good measure, that an anus is not a vagina

because i want men into anal not only to get off our backs and out of our faces -- by showing them that any pressure on men into frot to do anal is going to be met with fierce and uncompromising resistance --

but also to begin to see anal the way so many str8 and bi men see it -- as a bad choice

because objectively, that's what it is

so i thank frot bro for his post -- and i congratulate him, as i do all the men in this club, for staying true to himself and his dream of what love between men can be