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Is Gay Sex Trying Too Hard to be Straight?
1/26/2002
This weekend, 365Gay.com is running an op-ed I wrote for them under the title Is Gay Sex Trying Too Hard to be Straight?. And it contains a link to the Heroic site.
(You can find the piece by going to 365Gay.com and clicking on Politics of Sex under Channels in the right hand menu bar. Please visit their site and that page -- the more visitors to that page, the more interested the publisher will be in running more stories about us.)
[The piece is no longer on the 365gay.com website.
It can be found here.]
We got that article because I and 7 other people -- Dave Sprowls, David McQuarrie, Don F, Justin, William Thomas, the Cockster, and Gary -- posted there and protested when the posts were deleted.
And because Jack Nichols and Joe Kramer put some pressure on -- thank you Jack and Joe.
It was that easy. We posted, we protested, we got an op-ed about anal and frot.
Another piece of good news: today we broke 51,000 in numbers of visitors to the Heroic site.
That's also because people have been posting: David, the Cockster, GeoDude.
Thank you all.
The article and the visitors to the site are a direct benefit to you -- the guys in this club.
Many of the people reading that article or visiting the Heroic site will be hearing about frottage for the first time. And they'll learn that not all gay men do anal.
That's exactly what we want them to know.
But if you're one of the guys who's never posted in here or elsewhere -- and that's the overwhelming majority of the people reading this post -- you need to learn from these successes.
We could have had a story in POZ this fall. After three years of email correspondence with Sean Strub, founder of POZ, he'd agreed with me that there was too much pressure to have anal and was ready to do a story.
What he wanted was more evidence of coercion.
So I asked you guys to post about it. And not one of you did. Not one.
POZ prints 150,000 issues. That means it's seen by 600,000 people, including safer-sex educators and reporters for the big dailies and weeklies.
But we don't have a story there. Because you didn't post.
A few days ago I reposted a note from June about gayhealth.com's anal page, with a request that you send them an email: contactus@gayhealth.com
Dave Sprowls did -- a brief and to the point note. And he cc'ed it to me -- that's a necessity, so that I can follow up.
If ten or twenty or maybe a hundred of you did that, gayhealth.com would put up a page on frot -- they'd respond -- they're not monsters, and they're not blind to what's in their own interest.
Just like 365Gay.com.
People reading such a page on gayhealth.com and comparing it with gayhealth's anal page will have affirmation that frot is part of gay; that frot's a lot less dangerous than anal; and that frot is genital-genital and therefore highly pleasurable sex.
But don't write to them, and no page will go up. Nothing will change. And the next time someone asks you "What else do you like to do?" remember how you sat on your hands.
We can win this fight.
We -- not I.
You have to participate.
Anal sex has had its day. According to gayhealth.com -- not me -- the bottom's "pleasure" is almost entirely psychological. And the top -- unless he wants to expose both himself and the bottom to a rich variety of diseases -- has to wear latex.
How much fun can that be?
We have an alternative -- it's hot, it's masculine, it's skin on skin and dick2dick and when it comes to safety, there's no comparison.
But dude -- YOU HAVE TO TELL PEOPLE ABOUT IT.
For today, though, just go to 365gay.com and click on Politics of Sex.
Update: 8/28/2005
Although 365gay did accept this op-ed and one other, they refused to accept a third.
And the two they did accept were on their website very briefly -- about one week apiece.
No editor in the gay press has allowed a substantive discussion of these issues.
The struggle continues.
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