Bill Weintraub

Re: I am my own man

2-10-2005

Thank you Kevin.

That's a beautiful story, though it's sad you guys couldn't stay together.

My only caveat -- which is for the rest of you guys -- is that Kevin and his love "docked."

Docking is fine if you're in a monogamous relationship and know that you're both disease-free; but it's not okay under any other circumstances, because docking isn't safe.

Kevin says of his friend, "He didn't want to identify as gay, straight, bi ... but just was who he was."

Which is the mark of a sane and whole human being.

Kevin then goes on to say:

I have yet to experience anything like this in the gay world...and I want it back.

That's rational, and tells me that Kevin too is a sane and whole human being.

If Kevin, then, is a sane and whole human being, and the gay world can't give him what he needs, then maybe something very fundamental is wrong with gay male culture.

Your site has made me realize that I am not alone...I now understand what I want AND WHY I want it. I am a warrior...and a survivor...I am my own man...and want another man that is his.

Right.

"I am a warrior...and a survivor...I am my own man...and want another man that is his."

Beautifully said, and what we all want.

Not sure how to meet other guys...but if there is a group, let me know.

I've told Kevin about Frot Club of course, and also about Joel's nascent Frot Men Boston regional chapter.

If you guys will begin to get active in and support those regional chapters, they can be a tremendous force for good -- both culturally and for you personally.

But you've got to act.

Joel wants to have an initial meeting in March.

If you want a place to meet quality Frot guys like Kevin, you need to get in touch with Joel and go to that meeting and help make the Boston chapter a reality.

So, as is always the case, your life is in your own hands.

Me and guys like Chuck Tarver and Mart Finn are doing all we can through the internet, but only you can make this happen locally in Boston or wherever else you might live.

Thank you again Kevin.

Kevin's the real thing guys.

If you can't get it together to meet a guy like Kevin, you have only yourselves to blame.

Because Kevin's a great example of why

Wrestlerpete

Re: I am my own man

7-25-2005

Dear Warrior Brother,

Thanks for your story - I related to it very much. I too did not fit in to gay life when I came out. I found that it was not the "brotherhood" I was expecting and ended up regretting coming out in the first place. I found that all it did was pigeon hole me. I ended up hating the person I was - feeling my freedoms stolen and that I did not deserve to be happy. I always wanted children but thought that was not possible for me either. I would sell myself - meeting men on chat lines for money. Never realising that I could say no to anal sex - even though I was afraid. But this web site and group of men has made me proud to be a man.

My Dad has suffered from paranoia and depression his whole life and I always felt ashamed to be a boy because of the way he treated my mother. However for the first time I feel proud to be a man - a warrior man!

Thank you for your post and I hope you find your warrior brother,

Wrestlerpete