Bill Weintraub

Re: How Could I Have Missed This Website For So Long?

8-7-2005

Thank you Joel.

Joel asks:

How Could I Have Missed This Website For So Long?

The answer is easy.

No one will report on us.

The gay press censors us because we're critical of anal and promiscuity, and the straight press isn't comfortable with frank discussions of sexuality -- in no small part because the religious right goes berserk when any option other than abstinence is brought up.

So he'd never heard of us.

As anyone who reads this board knows, for several years I've been trying to raise enough money to create and pay for advertising.

But we never have the funds because only a handful of you donate.

Well guys, you need to think it through.

Especially if you're a guy who's alone and lonely and can't find a partner.

For every man like Joel who "stumbles" on the site, there are easily 100,000 who don't.

That's 100,000 potential partners -- who will never hear of us nor of you.

Figure it out.

You need to donate.

And you need to put the words Frot and Man2ManAlliance in every one of your online profiles.

And to tell your friends.

If you're not doing those things -- which 99.99% of you are not -- you have only yourself to blame for your loneliness and isolation.

And for the continuing domination of anal and denigration of Frot.

Along with the high prevalence of promiscuity, and the relative failure of Fidelity among "men who have sex with men."

My "Message Title" summarizes it completely. It's so apparent from both secular and Biblical history that male intimacy is an undisputable fact of life that it requires no defense.

Joel's right.

The historical and cross-cultural record is clear.

Men have sex with men.

They have since the beginning of time.

Homosex doesn't need defending, and it doesn't need explaining.

It's a normal and natural fact of male life.

My only regret is that it has taken me so long to find an organized group based upon a reality that I've cherished for so long because I didn't want to pursue the route of promiscuity and unnatural activities.

Again, what Joel is saying is true of many, many guys -- there are literally millions of men like Joel out there.

Alone, and, in many respects, forsaken.

Yet truth is, there's no need for men who love men "to pursue the route of promiscuity and unnatural activities."

Because there's another path, a warrior way:

Yeah, it has been a long time - decades unfortunately. And that's why hopefully there will also be a like-minded older guy somewhere in the Houston area who understands that marriage does not mean the absence of close male relationships.

I hope there will be someone for Joel.

It may take some time to find him.

But I suspect he's there.

The rest of you need to be clear.

If you want to end your isolation, you need to donate, to post, to take action.

I often say, "Do nothing, and nothing will change."

In fact, what I should say, because it's true in this instance, is "Do nothing, and your life will get worse."

Because truth is, anal becomes more entrenched with each passing day.

It's remarkable to me, as someone who remembers gay life before anal, how completely analism has taken over.

When it comes to sexual choice, gay life was very different -- just 30 years ago.

Sexually, gay men used to be a lot freer than they are now.

That will not change unless you work -- very hard -- to make it change.

Joel refers to "the reality I've cherished for so long."

Work to save that reality you cherish -- the warrior way of homosex -- before it, and you, go extinct.

Fight back.

Save your life.