Bill Weintraub

Re: a heroic cockrub warrior

7-15-2005

Thank you Pete.

I'm glad that the Alliance and in particular the other guys are here for you.

I want to comment on this passage:

the idea of wrestling and rubbing almost was too much. I shied away from other boys growing up who would horse play around as I felt guilty that I had a stiff dick around them. This meant that I didn't have close friendships with others boys and later as an adult other men, which is something I have really missed.

Right.

Pete, that's something any man would miss.

Because boys need the company of other boys and men need the company of other men.

The avoidance of that company, as I said in my replies to bokujin's message thread Really confused and to Griffin's post, A pal, a play mate and a dude, is what naked wrestler calls "the fag sports thing" -- guys being afraid to take part in normal adolescent male activities for fear of getting hard and being exposed.

But -- wrestling, horsing around, getting hard-ons, challenging each other -- those are all just guy things, and our desire to take part in them is a normal part of being a guy.

So it's very important for us as men to connect with other men.

Men need to be around men.

Male sociobiology is predicated on group male activities which, among other things, heighten testosterone.

And most men need a sexual connection with another man as well.

That's why there are so many straight-identified men on this site.

And that's natural and normal.

now I hope to meet another hero and we can be men together - caring for each other without shame or guilt.

Pete, that's beautifully said.

I hope all of you find your hero, and with him, heroic love.